Without further ado, here they are: 1. ASSUME CONTROL Control based in Action/Relationship Don’t entertain explanations Project self-confidence Business-like Give direction, don’t make requests 2. AVOID ARGUMENTS AND EMOTION Cut-off communication if child becomes belligerent Avoid reasoning with child Give direction and walk away Communicate: It’s your problem, not mine 1-2-3 Magic 3. PLAN FOR […]
Two years ago I wrote about the problems we face trusting research findings. To bring you up-to-date, here is my follow-up post. Unfortunately, the situation isn't much improved. The information, or misinformation, we face daily You may have read the recent study out of Warwick Medical School in the UK suggesting that kids from families […]
To tell or not to tell I am often asked by parents whether or not they should tell their child the diagnosis? It’s a good question, and of course the answer is somewhat complex. Focus on symptoms, not the diagnosis I find that it’s rarely beneficial to place a ‘label’ on the symptoms, and subsequently […]
Which Wolf are you Feeding? I don't usually post stories such as this, but this one is too good not to share: One evening an old Cherokee told his grandson about a battle that goes on inside all people. He said, “My son, the battle is between two ‘wolves’ inside us all." “One is Evil. […]
The Study A study funded by the John Templeton Foundation and carried-out at The University of Akron, Case Western Reserve University (CWRU) and Baylor University found that teens with substance abuse issues had significantly better outcomes to the extent they had a foundation of spiritual beliefs. In fact... Spiritual belief resulted in overall better outcomes […]
As parents, we expect kids to follow directions when told to do so; and often we have expectation that the response will be immediate. Much to our despair, it’s not, and likely shall never be. That’s the important point; kids are not automatons (or at least mine aren’t – I suspect yours aren’t either). I […]
Can you relate to this? You get into an argument with your spouse. You know your point is valid, but you’re having trouble getting your mate to acknowledge your viewpoint; instead, he just wants to “move on” and “forget about it.” So, he tries to change the subject but you’re left feeling unheard and misunderstood. […]
Grandmother receives a nasty letter You undoubtedly heard by now of the over-the-top, vicious and shameful letter a family in Canada received about their child who has autism. Apparently the neighbor was put-off by the child’s behavior and wrote a hate-filled letter of complaint that was full of insults and vitriol. Our Reaction Of course, […]
Written by Dr. John Carosso What was that all about? You remember the recent headline, based on a study from JAMA Pediatrics (August 12, 2013), claiming a link between induced and augmented labor and the child later receiving an autism-related special education services down the road. The study looked at birth records from ’90 to […]
Written by Dr. John Carosso “Natural” is better? I often hear from parents a preference for “natural” alternatives to their child’s emotional or behavioral issues. Examples include Omega III and tyrosine for ADHD, melatonin for sleep, valerian for anxiety. The idea is that these supplements are naturally occurring substances and not artificially manufactured by pharmaceutical […]
