There is a formula for child discipline. If you follow the recipe, the outcome is very predictable in a positive way. Children expect parents to behave in a particular manner; when they do, they tend to respond accordingly in terms of being more manageable, respectful, calmer, and grateful. When parents don’t follow the recipe, children also tend to respond accordingly, but with belligerence, a sense of entitlement, being more confrontational, and being stronger-willed.
So, What’s the Formula?
Your relationship with your child is the foundation to, well, just about everything you want to accomplish. In the absence of a good relationship, discipline and behavior will suffer. Once that is established, you can move toward the following step-by-step approach to improve the child's behavior.
Discipline is Based on a Relationship
Beyond any simple step or formula, the most important element of a well-behaved child is the relationship. It’s vital to remember that discipline is based on the word “disciple,” which is a willing and devoted follower. For instance, we want our kids to follow out of respect and a sense of camaraderie, not a fear of punishment. We accomplish that by building up the relationship with our child. How do we do this?
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